Do you feel you never have enough time to do all the things you want to do? That competing priorities leave you feeling exhausted and often there is no time left to recharge your own batteries? While one obvious solution is to reduce the number of activities in your life, that is not always easy – so what to do? While we can’t create more time in which to undertake the many activities that compete for our attention – we can instead create the feeling of more space in our li

Perhaps you have always considered yourself to be a competent and confident person. Life and life situations were mostly managed with ease and you had no difficulty in making decisions. But recently you’ve noticed that life has started to feel a little difficult. You find yourself second-guessing your decisions, no longer sure if you’re making good choices and you’re feeling pressured that keeping up with your contemporaries is requiring more and more effort. You’ve notic

Has fear ever stopped you from doing what you want to do, or being who you really want to be? Do you find that sometimes you start out with good intentions to make a significant change in your life, but part-way through, the voice in your head pulls you back into your default way of thinking and doing – and you make little or no progress at all? In fact you may even feel you’ve gone backwards instead of forwards? Fear of failure or fear of the unknown can close us down and

Is there something; an event or a situation; that you keep carefully hidden? Hidden from your current relationships, or friends, or work colleagues? Are you finding the effort of keeping your secret, is becoming more and more difficult? So what can you do to finally put it behind you and move on? If you’re finding more and more that ‘should haves’ and ‘could haves’ are starting to play on your mind; know that often our own judgement of ourselves or of our actions are far m

If there is so much going on in your life that you feel like you are losing control, and you aren’t making good decisions anymore – what can you do to become the master of your life instead of it being the master of you? The first step is to consider why there is so much activity - is it because you can’t say ‘no’ to requests for help; is it because you might be transitioning from one state to another; or maybe you have suffered a catastrophe not of your own making? If it is

Do you feel like you are destined to always pick the wrong partner, the wrong job, the wrong queue? You don’t understand why some people seem to be lucky in love, lucky in life and yes - they always seem to pick the right queue… A Buddhist Nun called Pema Chodron once said: “Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” So when the same things keep happening; for example: maybe you keep attracting the wrong sort of partners into your life, and your rel

Any transition in life; whether it is changing jobs, starting a business, a health crisis, or leaving a long term relationship; often requires a leap of faith that the new situation will be more satisfying and that it will take us closer to our life goals or passions. If our new desired state is one that excites us, but it is the practicalities of the transition that are causing the hesitation; then more work may be required to set the structures in place or to learn the skil

Do you remember that little train engine who kept telling himself: “I know I can, I know I can, I know I can…” That’s all very well when you’re feeling good about the world. But what happens when the inner voice is telling you that you’re wasting your time and will never amount to much… Whose voice is that? Is it your own or an echo of someone else in your life whose mantra you have taken on for yourself? Maybe it was a parent, a teacher, or someone else who had signific

Perhaps you’ve been in this situation… Where someone is telling you that you’ll never achieve x, y or z; that what you’re doing is a waste of time and even if it was going to be successful it’ll probably fail after a while anyway… You probably felt angry, unsupported and worthless – all at the same time. But what if instead you heard them talking about their own fears and worries? Maybe they are annoyed that you are spending your time away from them. Or they are scared that